Megan, of Megan Hannon Photography, sharing a personal story for our Feature Friday today!
Like most of you reading, I always felt like I would be the perfect wife
and mother… before I got married and had kids. I remember dreaming of
all of the plans that I had for myself and finding comfort in knowing that
everything would work out just so because I thrived on control and
organization over every area of my life and as long as I worked hard and
was a good person, nothing could stand in my way.
Let’s all laugh together.
And as I sit here and write, I hope that my story helps you to feel
reassured that so many of life’s greatest blessings come from being thrown
off of your perfect path.
Here is a little look into my story:
I got pregnant my junior year of college by my on again, off again
boyfriend from high school. I took a HUGE leap of faith and quit my job to stay at home with our
daughter. I planned to do daycare to make ends meet and one week after
quitting my job and starting daycare, the child’s dad lost his job so
then, so did I. After an unexpected pregnancy and a first try pregnancy, I struggled for
two years to conceive our third baby.
My husband lost his job a few weeks before I was due with our third baby.
All of these things were certainly not a part of the plan that I had for
myself! And yet they have all played such a critical part of shaping
everything that I love most about my life. I’ll be completely honest, I
really struggle with blind faith. I love to plan and I love to have
control, so just having faith that things will work out or things will
happen as they are suppose to is really hard for me. But, every time I
seem to have my stuff together, God points me in a different direction
that I may not be so willing to go.
When I became pregnant with my oldest
daughter, I was devastated. This was NOT a part of my plan! Little did I
know, this event in my life would be the catapult that would launch me to
exactly where I know in my heart I was suppose to go. We named our
daughter Grace and she was the best thing that has ever happened to me.
She helped ensure that my boyfriend at the time became my husband and
because of her, I married my soul mate. She helped me realize that as much
as I KNEW I wanted to be a full time working mom, my mother’s heart had
other plans. The second she was put in my arms, everything changed.
Because we had her, we went on to have our second daughter, Ella.
Because of the fleeting moments of their childhood, I took up photography and
found my passion. In the midst of my husband and I’s job losses and
changes over the years, we learned about budgeting and living without and
we learned to value time and people, not possessions. Because I found
photography, I inspired my husband that he, too, can pursue something that
he’s passionate about and neither of us need to fall into the cycle of
working jobs that we hate. Because I had a hard time getting pregnant
again, I realized the painful struggle that so many women go through and
it gave me a more empathetic heart towards those women and a greater
understanding of what a miracle life really is. Because it took me two
years to get pregnant, when I finally did, that pregnancy gave me Norah
and she is the perfect addition to our family. She was meant for us and us
I can look back and be so incredibly thankful for every single time that
my life didn’t go according to my plan! It is in those moments that
character is built. It is in those moments that provide you with teaching
opportunities for our children and for those around us. I am a woman and a
mom and a wife who finds such immense value in being transparent and
sharing her story, even the hard moments of it, because even if it’s just
one other person, it gives you the chance to give hope to those who
haven’t been given the gift of seeing hard times that they’re currently in
with the perspective that I have after coming out of those hard times.
In our world of social media, there are countless opportunities to feel
like you’re falling short or even failing because you’re only seeing the
perfect posts of perfect moments in life that everyone else is
experiencing. It is so easy to fall into a dangerous cycle of comparison.
All you see is the destination and not the journey that someone took to
get there. You don’t get to see the tears or the pain that might have
brought them to that pretty little picture.
I want to encourage all of you out there to be more transparent. Be a little more kind
and give a little more grace. Use the wisdom that you gain from living through the moments
in your life that seem unfair or unplanned to pour into the life of
someone that’s going through a hard time. Help them to try and grasp the
concept that something amazing is on the horizon. Something that they
couldn’t have planned for themselves if they tried. I encourage you to
share your struggles because in doing so, you may just make someone feel
as though they aren’t broken.
“The pain that you’ve been feeling, can’t compare to the joy that’s coming.”
Thank you so much for reading and I hope you feel encouraged.